“Dom” Theodore Joins His Family… May 4, 2009
Posted by rbjtimban in 2009, Career, Culture, Ethnic, Family, Love, My Views, Relationship, Tradition.trackback
It has been Theodore’s decision to move out and joins his family. He had talked about it soon after he and his family came to Betong from Kuching, back in 2007. He understands that he and his family should not pack mum’s place as his religion now differs from ours. Yes, he understands that.
And by 4th May, 2009, he moved out and rents a house nearby. My wife and I, and, even his grandma felt a bit uneasy. But the ‘reality’ is – all married children have to leave their home for their own. We are like birds. Once the we are able to ‘fly on own on’, off we go. Birds leave their mum’s built nests to build their own nests. And the ‘tradition’ goes on and on.
Actually I am monitoring Theodore’s moving out. There would be times when he needs my assistance, and I never know when. All this while, when my wife misses our little Iskandar (Theodore’s 18 months boy), she we would sneak to their place and brings him home. And the little boy really like it. He did not bother being ’snatched’ at any time of the day, as our old house is very much bigger for him to run around. By 5 p.m., when his mum and dad are back home, we would send the boy back.
Don’t worry, they’ll manage it well on their own
. I left home at 13 and been crashing out (renting) with friends since 18 and now am married. Practically growing up with friends (that’s why I’ve hundreds of friends in Facebook LOL) and groping my way around since young but I’m doing well though 
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Thanks a lot, Oli, for your comforting words. Yes, I too left home when I was 16 years old, and stay with aunt Roselind in Tabuan. I stayed in her place for two years and attended my forms 4 & 5 at SMK Kuching Town (1979 – 80). The two years of being away from mum and dad really taught me how to be independent. By 1981, once again I was on my own, when I worked as a temporary teacher.
Now, besides Dom moving out, my daughter, Fionula Connie Duie is staying with her in-laws in Kuching. Both she and her husband are now working.